Honesty is the cornerstone of every
relationship. And it doesn’t matter if the person in question is your SO
or your plumber. Your love life and your bath are better off when you
don’t keep secrets about your pipes. This guy, however, thought it would
be better to wait before telling his girlfriend about his secret child.
Casually slipping it in way later proved to be seriously damaging.
“I
was sitting at the counter of a busy restaurant/bar when I heard this
conversation, [and it] was not a private one,” author Maria Dahvana
Headley told Bored Panda. “It was loud, and a bunch of
other people heard it right along with me. There was a lot of
head-shaking going on as the restaurant listened to this guy blare his
imaginary truth.” It captivated her so much, Maria live-tweeted the
entire exchange.
“This conversation
took place in June of 2017, before the Weinstein revelations, before
#MeToo gained traction – and it was a tremendously clear example of
everything we’ve been talking about ever since – gaslighting and what it
looks like in real time.” Maria claims that was the reason why she put
it up. “Not to make fun of this guy, but to show people what it actually
looks like when someone gaslights you. We can all read about what
gaslighting is, but when it’s happening to you, often you don’t know
what’s going on.”
“This is why I talk
about things like this in public – I want victims to realize that they
are not the ones at fault in scenarios like this one, and to depart
these situations when they see the warning signs – lying, refusal to
acknowledge wrongdoing, blaming the person they are lying to for judging
them.”
So as far as overheard conversations go, this one certainly is among the most interesting ones. Scroll down to read how everything unfolded!
Image credits: MARIADAHVANA
